Childhood Memories — Childhood Fears
What are your scariest childhood memories? What kinds of things scare you? The dark? The monster under the bed? Getting in trouble? That one scared me. But when I was a very little child — maybe six or seven — I discovered a terrifying possibility — Mama could die!
I have vivid memories of nights that I lay in bed so afraid that it hurt. My eyes would strain to cry. And my throat would burn like a scream — but no sound came out. What was worse was that it was something I couldn’t even talk to Mama about.
The Worst Thing In The World Could Happen — Childhood Fears
Mama could die that very night while I was sleeping. Maybe she had already. I’d get up and creep to her bed to make sure she was breathing. Then I’d go back to my bed, relieved — for a little while.
I wanted to pray to God to not let Mama die, but I didn’t dare — I was afraid it might give him the idea. So, the worst thing in the world could happen that night and I was helpless!
One night the answer came to me — I could trick God!
I couldn’t ask God not to let her die. But I could ask for something else that would keep it from happening. So I prayed,
“Dear God, please make Mama wake up feeling good in the morning.”
It worked. I prayed and the next day Mama woke up. The prayer made Mama safe for another day and eased my fear. I kept praying my prayer every night for years. I don’t remember when I stopped.
Grandmama Was Old and She Might Die – Childhood Memories
Another of my worries was Grandmama. She was old and she might die. I’d be sad, but that wasn’t the worst thing that would happen to her. Grandmama wasn’t going to go to Heaven because she never went to church! She read her Bible a lot, but I knew that probably wasn’t enough to make up for church.
Most everybody I knew went to church and Mobile had plenty of churches. There were three right at the end of Petain Street.
But Grandmama wouldn’t go to any of them — not to the Baptist Church with Aunt Pauline or the Methodist Church with Mama and me. I loved Grandmama and I’d miss her. But you had to go to church to get to Heaven — the rules were real clear to me when I was little.
Do you remember when you were certain about the rules?
I saw a balance scale displayed in Van Antwerp’s drug store. It gave me an idea. Maybe I could convince God to take her to Heaven.
I imagined Grandmama not going to church weighing down one side. On the other side, I piled the reasons she should go to Heaven.
#1. She reads her Bible a lot.
#2 She watches the TV preachers too. But that’s not the same as going to a real church, is it? I mean she can’t take communion through the television. Do you have to take communion to go to Heaven?
#3. She takes care of me and lets me lay in her bed and watch TV when I’m sick.
#4. She does nice things for people. She baked a chicken pie for the Carpenters when Mrs. Carpenter was sick.
Would the good deeds along with the Bible-reading and TV preacher-watching be enough to outweigh church?
I wasn’t sure. So, I told God my list and left it with Him.
I didn’t have to worry about Mama and Heaven. If only one person on earth was going it would be her. Because Mama knew God. They loved each other. She talked to him all the time. She’d go to Heaven all right — just not yet!
You might wonder why I didn’t mention Daddy. That’s because I didn’t worry about him. It couldn’t help. He would not be going to Heaven.
He never went to church, or read the Bible, or watched the TV preachers. And he cussed — a lot. He did do nice things for people. He helped our neighbors when they had a flood in their house. And when I had a sore throat he always took care of me. It made me sad but it was a fact. So I didn’t think about it.
What about me?
I had never considered that I might not go to Heaven until one day in Sunday school. We had a new teacher who talked about the other place. She said even little children would go there if they were bad.
I could go to the other place?
I was scared because I did a lot of bad things. Sometimes I talked back and pouted. I lied to Mama and said I’d practiced piano when I hadn’t. Once I took a dime from Grandmama’s coin purse. And I didn’t like going to church either. I never paid attention. And I had a fight with a boy in my Sunday school class and called him a bad name.
I took my fears to Mama.
I cried and told her I was afraid wouldn’t go to Heaven and neither would Grandmama. Just like that, she put an end to my fears — except the one I didn’t tell her. “Get those thoughts right out of your head. God loves you and you’ll be with Him someday. And he loves Grandmama and knows what’s in her heart. Just trust Him.“
So, Mama convinced me I was going to Heaven — but that was something else to worry about.
What if I didn’t like heaven?
I was afraid I wouldn’t. I wanted to be with Mama and maybe Grandmama. And my friend Delilah. She’d be there for sure. She was a Holiness. The Holiness had to be extra good because they had a lot more sins to watch out for.
But the way the grown-ups talked about Heaven, it didn’t sound like much fun. The things they were most excited about were the streets — they were gold. There were mansions too. And there were angels. And a Heavenly choir. And we’d all sing.
Would Heaven be boring?
Angels and mansions and golden streets and singing — was that all there was? No playing or watching cartoons on TV — just singing day and night — forever.
It sounded boring — but it was still better than going to the other place. Grown-ups talked about that place a lot more than they talked about Heaven. It was made of fire and screaming people.
It scared me. So, no matter how boring it was, I prayed every night, “And if I die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take.”
When I look back at these childhood memories, I feel sorry for the little girl who woke up nights agonizing about Mama, God, Heaven, sin, and the other place — things she couldn’t control. Did all children worry about them?
Now I’m grown, I don’t wake up worrying about such things. I wake up worrying about grownup things — what’s happening in the world. Haters. Do we need a new roof? A new AC? The price of gas. Will I have a stroke if I walk the dog in this 95+ degree heat and 80% humidity?